Danny Elfman celebrates his 7 decades on earth (2024)

[quote] Why isn't his wife by his side or at the table to share his epic, traditional moment? Why is she in the kitchen in a stained apron, instead?

He explained that he had a few different celebrations, one with the family and one with "the gang."

There are two women in the video. The one with apron isn't her. The one on the left WITHOUT the apron and hair up in bun looks just like her and she's assisting the apron lady. They hired some cooks to help prepare the catering. Bridget is always who designs, plans, hires, sets up all the party event stuff the family puts on regularly. Danny and his brother have both mentioned in the past how she's the one who likes to be in charge of the parties. Danny also said in TWO online radio interviews following his bday, which was May 29th, that his wife designed and made him the velvet cake ..out of the 6 cakes he had altogether and his daughter made him the pistachio one. I can post the interviews if I can find them again.

The cake thing as he says, is a two decade long tradition he always does and there's pics of such everywhere of it. And I see nothing wrong with a wife, for a split minute, helping whoever in the kitchen or grabbing more stuff to bring outside. There's no proof she was in there the entire time either. She could have been in there for just that ONE second for all you people know!!

So, by walking in her own kitchen is a sign of something sinister now?? Get real. Again...THEY HIRED A CATERING TEAM and they do often and some of those very companies have posted about hosting the Elfman parties before..and she's the one next to the apron gal helping her or getting more of whatever was there.

She's the one wearing the gray shirt with her hair up in a bun on the left next to the person wearing the apron.

They hire a catering, kitchen team each party and they put on a lot of parties throughout the year. Jane Fonda even has posted, talked about it. Bridget's brother or cousin (?) Troy also liked and replied on Danny's birthday post on Instagram.

70 is a big deal. I don't see this as weird.

Just a dude having fun with his pals.

I actually think it is sweet he respects his wife's wishes to keep her out the public eye.

R29 Exactly!

And he had multiple bday parties as he said. One with family n friends, and then pals, etc.

He's always had a funny, really in your face satirical sense of humor and the posts are pure fun classic Danny.

These people on here need to stop reading into shit and looking for shit where there is not shit!

R44 Seriously, why be an asshole?

Grow up.

Danny defender is so annoying. You “see” him in a certain friendly flattering light which is fine, you are entitled. But when you charge into threads giving perfectly rational explanations for his freakishness, you start to seem crazy and annoying.

You can love/admire/ respect the man and his music and I can think he’s a self obsessed nerdy troll with 6 birthday cakes, who sacrifices cakes to the gods like an asshole, who made Bridget fat and whose film score music is bombastic and dull. You can disagree. But stop trying to change me or anyone else here.

When I first saw the more recent pap photos of Bridget and how different she looks now, compared to her Hollywood years, I was taken aback and surprised in a way that probably doesn't reflect well on me.

I've thought about it since, and realize that I have a lot of respect for Bridget Fonda. It takes a lot of bravery to walk through life as yourself, especially when you come from an environment built on creating the image of a specific type of perfection. She's probably a pretty interesting person.

R32

Interview from early 2000's about his tattoos.

[quote] he also wants to donate his skin to art after he dies or something, too.

Very generous of him!

R59, did you know this is primarily a gay discussion forum and that gay people are known for having a “grasp on outsider artsy, eccentric type people with quirky senses of humor” ?

Also, Danny Elfman is the ultimate insider despite his unconventional looks.

You're a kind soul R51

Considering the family history of mental illness, I wondered if perhaps she took anti-depressants and the weight gain was a side effect (along with the stress of dealing with a man baby like Danny, of course) of keeping herself level.

R80 I'm a female. Yes.

A "Frau"? as in a stuffy stuck up, TERF, soccer mom female? no.

I think Danny Elfman seems wicked fun and cool and smart and every good thing. I wish I had friends like him. Hell, I wish I was more like him. I'm 50. I used to be in bands, I used to paint, used to throw pots on the wheel, I zined and wrote articles. Used to travel all over the world, hike, do yoga, and used to go to gallery shows and concerts all the time. Had friends all over the world. Would have epic Halloween parties and generally was living life large.

A couple years ago I hit a wall. Something in me collapsed. My energy for life disappeared. I hate it, and I'm not exactly resigned to it, but on the other hand I don't hardly have enough energy to try to fix it. I'm straight up, simply not the person I used to be. I thought I would be engaged and fully creative and alive into my 70s, like this Danny Elfman fella. I hope I figure it out, because he sure as shit seems to be more productive and having a lot more fun than the rest of us put together. I wonder if he takes testosterone boosters? Fuck. I'm so jealous.

Dan Fan also uses "TERF" as an insult, no surprise. Internalized misogyny, slavish devotion to a musician who wouldn't spit on her if she were on fire, yep it all makes sense.

I'll bet you just love taking your frau friends to gay bars too, don't you, Dan Fan? You're such an ally! You go, girl!

No, really... go. Skedaddle. Git!

R90 Like R88 included, He's out there living life and having a great time and doesn't give a shit and genuinely doing stuff because he loves to do it, is something to admire. And he's damn talented and has a glorious music career under his belt...something most people wish they had and its something to look up to. 40+ year long successful career, longtime marriage, raised good kids, 70 and still rockin' and making Trent Reznor, Dave Grohl and others half his age and the likes jealous.

But R88 (who I think is also R91/80) also has a history of Bridget /Danny replies that make me kinda wonder if they're pulling a leg, as there are some anti dannyish posts, but I give benefit of doubt, ...I guess. But whatever the case, yes. Danny is mega cool and think many are just jealous someone who is that age is actually doing what he does and continually and has that gives no shit attitude about what anyone thinks and just lives life how he wants..which many envy.

Correction to my previous post in R93:

"But [R88] (who I think is also [R91]/80) also has a history of Bridget /Danny replies that make me kinda wonder if they're pulling a leg, as ***they have posted*** some anti dannyish posts, but I give benefit of doubt, ...I guess. Love or hate Danny, he's to be admired. But whatever the case, yes. Danny is mega cool and think many are just jealous someone who is that age is actually doing what he does and continually and has that gives no shit attitude about what anyone thinks and just lives life how he wants..which many envy."

I'm legit, R92. I can feel this way AND that way. Do I think his hair is extremely unflattering currently? Yes. Do I think he seems like he's living his best life? Yes. Is he a bit hyper and insufferable? Yes. Does he also seem like a generally good guy? Yes. Is he wildly creative and consistently brilliant? Yes. Do I wish he could galavant around with his lady and not have to keep her in the shadows? Yes. Do I think his tattoos are weird? Yes. Was I a legit Oingo Boingo fan in the 80s? Yes. Do I wish I had at age 50 Danny Elfman's stamina and joie de vivre at age 70? Yes. Do I feel that he's a bit self-involved and up his own ass? Yes.

See? All of these things can be true all at once.

[quote] None of us in our 50s are having even half as much fun as Danny Elfman is at age 70.

How do you know, really? It's true that Instagram, etc., are highlight reels of a person's life. It's a trap to compare your entire life to someone else's Instagram.

R103

Just looked it up on wiki...

"Search for a word TERF /tərf/ nounDEROGATORY a person whose views on gender identity are considered hostile to transgender people, or who opposes social and political policies designed to be inclusive of transgender people."

So...I'm lost. Transphobia, homophobia, etc are bad things ...and I was saying I wasn't one of those typical TERF, uptight conservative, Karen like, racist, Stepford Wife type women.

Honestly have no idea about any of this stuff nor the underlying constitute of this board so assuming I'm missing something or misunderstanding something. Also, mind you, I'd never even heard of the term til I read something on a Tumblr board a couple years ago. Just thought it meant basically a transphobic and homophobic super crazy like psycho super conservative feminist.

[quote] Is that Bridget in background washing dishes ?

It appears to be her however, I believe she is baking or cooking. It also looks like Bridget is wearing that Old Navy striped shirt she has been caught wearing 2x in public

R112 Also, what is the crime of baking or cooking during a birthday celebration??? Did you all grow up where nobody helped cook or bake birthday stuff for you or did you have a 5 star Mr. Belvedere/maid which you were forbidden to help out and had everything done for you; waited on hand and foot, or did you go to some 5 star restaurant to provide each birthday munchie where doing anything at home or yourself was considered a crime or low class? And again, she's known to be very into arranging the whole party planning thing and helping out and joining in. Because she's not a spoiled celeb, unlike her brat aunt, and is an actual decent person.

Datalounge: Where actually helping staff, being polite, having manners, and helping in a kitchen is considered depression, abused, or a crime.

And the shirt in the video is solid gray!!!!!!!!!!! Not striped!!

[quote] Datalounge: Where actually helping staff, being polite, having manners, and helping in a kitchen is considered depression, abused, or a crime.

Thanks for the giggle

I'm not a Sci. Sci is a freaky cult. Ew.

And Danny isn't Sci. His brother, nephew and niece in law Jenna are though.

And I'm not obsessed. Just the deliberate attacks people keep making on he and Bridget based on the most dumbest shit and out of context runs rampant on here. Which there seems to be some kind of vendetta against them on here for some reason.

Example... explaining actual background and literally innocent explanations to stuff against the hostile accusations people make about them.

I only originally found this place by accident when you all started on the attacks over a year ago when that Daily Mail thing came out. Someone was Google searching something unrelated and that thread came up in the results, and some of us fans were like what the fuck... then saw there'd been an ongoing assault against her and Danny. So..decided to clear up many of the lies and assumptions people were making without doing any real actual research or talking about shit they know zero about. Most probably had no clue about anything about Danny prior. Only Bridget cuz of Jane or whatever I don't know.

Like this OP...bases bogus assumptions on a two second video of her in a kitchen helping someone so jumps to crazy conclusions. so I gave some info on that she's known to Actually Enjoy HELPING CATERERS And who in their right mind even comes to any far fetched conclusions based on just a person in a damn kitchen???

Before I came on..you all just thought Danny just recently started tattoos and being wild and stuff. Things like that. Just simply a fan putting out needless fires started by people jumping to conclusions based on ...nothing.

This is a moot point. Its like talking to walls for the most part.

So..doesn't really matter. Said what I needed to say , and other defenders.

There is no conspiracy behind the Elfman/Fonda thing... stop looking for one.

I made the mistake of still lurking on the forum (it's an interesting place sometimes, sorry!) and seeing the new Fonda posts...and I found myself not being able to not say shit especially when slanderous incorrect info was being spouted. I think I said all I could in the replies section of the April Fonda vs reporters thread. Thought that was the end of it honestly.

But when you're a huge fan of something or someone, you naturally will hop into the discussion and defend it, right? No different than my replies.

R131 Not a scientologist and never was and would never involve myself in that trash.

No offense to any scientologists on the board, but ones gotta be REALLY stupid to be part of that.

And again, Danny and Bridget aren't either. But members of his family are.

Danny mentioned in an interview that the extended family has an agreement to not discuss religion or politics at family gatherings. And he is an atheist since age 11. Thank fuck.

Don't know what else to say or why I even bother. Said what needed to be said. Explained stuff and gave background info and anyone else later can just reference that if they are curious. Like i said, god itself could say whatever and some of you would still believe the "narcissist" "satanist" "Bridget's mental" conspiracies. Wasting my time here. I'm a fucking idiot for still reading the board and responding every time these come up.

What ever.

One last thing..

Someone simply being in a damn kitchen in a two second video...grabbing something from the cook or handing something to them, in no way means they're forced to be in there or that the husband is a narcissist or...whatever twisted ass shit you said. Its almost comical to even know that someone out there could actually draw that kinda conclusion. Troll or a very sheltered person OP is.

Leaving this one to you guys now.

I would never conclude a wealthy woman who has gained a significant amount of weight is in the kitchen because she's forced to be there.

I would conclude this wealthy woman, who loves eating good food, is in the kitchen supervising workers who are preparing a special meal for a family event.

[ quote] would never conclude a wealthy woman who has gained a significant amount of weight is in the kitchen because she's forced to be there.

Are you deliberately ignoring the obvious deduction of Bridget being in the kitchen hovering over food?

R142?

R141 So, someone hovering over food, in a kitchen, automatically means they're being forced there? You realize everyone in the world has hovered over food in a kitchen or a kitchen/cooking-type construct at least some point in their life.............................

Maybe Bridget got tired of starving, diet pills, coke and the whole fame game.

What's so great about being famous? Do people actually "love" you if they only like you when you're thin? Oh no she's a big fat cow, oh yuck. Well you never really loved her anyway so what good is it?

Maybe she wants to eat cake and chill with her family. Good for her not seeking endless plastic surgeries and Kardashian herself up. She doesn't give a shit what you fake love people think of her anymore.

[quote]I only originally found this place by accident when you all started on the attacks over a year ago when that Daily Mail thing came out. Someone was Google searching something unrelated and that thread came up in the results, and some of us fans were like what the fuck...

Dear one at R144 and all the other earnest posts on this thread, it's time that someone finally spills the beans to save you any more heartache or frustration:

DL is a place of "pointless bitchery." That's the motto of the site. That's sort of the entire thing here. We exist as a forum for GAY folks to gossip wildly and unreservedly. To say the unsayable, to get outrageous and to wallow in our most catty instincts. It's not a site founded on journalistic truth, or vetted facts, or reason, or disciplined debate.

Many of the most thriving active threads are not even driven by true passionate interest in the topic, but rather by sheer boredom, the thrill of absurdity, trolling, and the quest for verbal one-up-man-ship.

So the naked truth is that no one cares one way or the other, ultimately, about Danny Elfman here on DL. No one has it out for him, either. But no one here is especially invested in him. Maybe on other forums, but not here.

People come here to blow off steam. It's fun to make mountains of gossip out of molehills. We are anti-cancel culture and so we tolerate a lot of bad behavior. If you spend enough time here, you learn to give as good as you get. This isn't a site for the faint of heart.

I think your man Danny is interesting, talented and slightly mysterious. His legacy is immense. So I'm not telling you that you're wrong to feel passionately about the guy or to feel bad when you see his name or reputation seemingly besmirched. I just really want to clear up what is going on here on THIS particular website, once and for all. Because it's not what you think. It's a free-for all here. It's the wild wild west. By design. Your earnest ministrations aren't going to change that.

And so, while I empathize with your love of Danny Elfman and your instinct to protect his and especially Bridget's integrity, I would like to suggest that you perhaps go and find another place to discuss them with the sincerity of which you are capable. You're tilting at windmills here, and it's truly, truly not worth your time.

Sending you hugs.

Agreed R152. Talented, funny, apparently a very nice guy- but boring. I can't believe his fan killed a 150+ reply thread out of him having a birthday cookout on his back patio.

It's like someone being a fan of your neighbor down the street. He's not that impressive, girl.

How was this ever a topic?

Oh no, someone was doing something....in a kitchen...........AGHAST!!